Koshu-byo," or "princess disease" in Japanese, is a slang term that originally spread from East Asian countries such as Taiwan and Hong Kong. It refers to an extremely self-centered state of mind and behavior in which one treats oneself as if one were a princess and takes it for granted that those around one are at one's service.
Although not a medical diagnosis, the concept is often described as a "social phenomenon" in contemporary interpersonal relationships.
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Key Characteristics of Principal Public Disease
Persons who are considered to have public ownership disease generally exhibit the following tendencies
** Excessive sense of privilege:** A strong belief that "I deserve special treatment" and become grumpy or blame others when they do not get what they want.
Lack of empathy: They are indifferent to the hardships and feelings of others and put their own needs first.
** Financial and emotional dependence: They tend to rely on others (especially partners and parents) to solve problems that they can solve themselves and use material tributes as a barometer of their affection.
Emotional ups and downs: They try to control others by crying or getting angry easily when their selfishness is not accepted (emotional swaying).
Why is the "Lord's Disease" created?
Several social and psychological factors have been pointed to as the reason behind this phenomenon.
** Overprotective family environment:** Due in part to the declining birthrate, people are brought up in an environment where all their needs are met without any inconvenience from an early age, and this feeling does not leave them even as adults.
Influence of media and SNS: Extreme values such as "women who are loved are allowed to be selfish" and "being paid tribute is a status" are spread through SNS, etc., and this is a case of internalizing these values.
The flip side of self-esteem: In fact, there is a hidden psychological fragility in which the woman lacks self-confidence and cannot realize her own value without continuous confirmation of excessive attention and service from those around her.
Perspectives as a coping mechanism
If you have someone close to you who has this tendency, or if you are considering this as an analysis of your relationships, the following points are important.
Draw boundaries: Clarify "how far is acceptable" for the other person's demands, and firmly refuse what is impossible.
Change the reward system: Give positive feedback for independent and considerate behavior, rather than giving benefits for selfishness.
Confirm mutual reciprocity: The basic principle that relationships are give-and-take must be patiently demonstrated through words and actions.
Rather than dismissing it as a mere "bad character trait," if we look at it as one "adaptation strategy" that reflects the environment in which we were raised and the distortions of modern society, we may see a different aspect of it.
Would you like to know more about this phenomenon, its psychological mechanisms (e.g., differences from narcissistic personality disorder), and specific countermeasures?